June 7, 2009

The Short Hair Debate

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While I was waiting for my dentist I read this article in Chatelaine on women with short hair (as in above the shoulder) that is so interesting that I have to share.

We all agree that our hair is a form of our expression and that short hair (above the shoulder) is back. Take a look at Posh and Rihanna’s hair cuts. Yet the article says that a lot of men subconsciously feel that a woman reduces their attractiveness when they cut their hair short and it may be a signal to push men away.

The article then said that when a woman cuts their hair short, she is subconsciously making a statement that says “I don’t want to be seen as a sex object”. Cutting your hair that short is a rebellion against Barbie’s long, blonde hair that we girls grew up with.

Short hair just seems like a good “Screw you” to the traditional society. The article says that in
Forbes Magazine’s list of the 100 powerful women, the majority have short hair! It seems that these women wants to be taken more mentally than physically, that they’re not trying to win men over by their appearance ie Hilary Clinton.

If you work in the tech industry like me, take a look around your office and I bet you that a lot of women have short hair. Most short hair women in my office also seem to have a more feisty personality as well.

I asked a few of my guy friends that if there was a short hair and a long hair girl, both equally attractive, which one would they approach. All of them said the long hair girl. They also all agreed that women loose their femininity which lose their sex appeal when they cut their hair short, and that they might be a lesbian.

I suppose that is true to a degree, I mean Elen DeGenerous, Rosie O'donald and Pink aren’t exactly known for their femininity.

I will admit that I have dyed my hair from blonde highlights to black and cut it shorter because I felt that I would be taken more seriously. There were also times in school when I got a good mark, but the guys around me would say “oh, it’s because she got help with that” like they didn't believe I could do it on my own. I always felt that it’s because I dress a lot more feminine than the rest of the girls in engineering- Because they didn’t pick on the other girls that have shorter hair and wears a t shirt and jeans to school everyday nearly as much.


So what are your opinions of short hair?

47 comments:

  1. I agree. Everytime I said I wanted to cut my hair, my guy friends would get mad at me and tell me not to do it. The bf loves it when I have long hair, but sometimes it is just too much to deal with!

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  2. Wow. Interesting entry :)

    I stopped cutting my hair so short because for the very same season, my boyfriend likes longer hair. I guess it's just the whole "crowning glory" issue. Hmmm.

    Oh well. I would love short hair - but only so little can pull it off.

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  3. Ah I miss my long hair but it's probably true that it makes me feel more feminine and pretty although I must say for example Alyssa Milano with her pixie cut looked gorgeous and feminine. P.S. Don't worry I've got my inspiration photo and everything chosen out for your contests I just want to wait till my hair gets done this wednesday. When is the exact ending date again?

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  4. a long time ago, my aunt was like, "did you know that when you cut your hair short, our people think we are divorced ladies? Well, my hair is short but I used to be divorced but I don't care"lmao... it is kind of true!

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  5. great post! i didn't know that it actually gives the message of "screw you!" but my bf always told me that men prefer long hair!!!! and all my other guy firends say the same! ahhh, why don't guys have this problem? ahhaha! ;P

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  6. I know!!! Guys love long haired girls! I don't really care - either way it's just HAIR. With longer hair, I spend more time washing, drying and styling it. But with shorter hair, I take a shorter time to manage it. Plus, I'm living in a hot tropical country - long hair is such a hassle over here. If I hear my guy friends saying that girls with long hair are hotter I'd totally smack them hahaha.

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  7. Im still looking for a pic of paris that i can copy (for your contest), but so far I cant find anything -_-" will keep looking!! and abt hair, I always think alot of professionals keep their hair short because it's more efficient lolz well, I only cut my hair short once and that was like the biggest mistake ive ever committed lolz coz it didnt suit me at all.ever since I kept my hair long, and I found out ppl still take me seriously (this is talking abt during my study period) when I got good marks and all. but, I might be wrong, I can be pretty ignorant of those kind of comments lolz

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  9. had to edit my comment-
    I've thought over this issue multiple times wondering what exactly was it about long hair that tied it to femininity. I chalked it up to the movement of long hair to being like the "elegance" of a flowy skirt- despite it sounding utterly ridiculous. I think "flowy-ness" would be one of the bases of femininity since it is graceful. So long as hair has that soft motion to it, I think it's considered feminine, which is why the short rigid cuts loses feminine sex appeal. But yeah, all this crock is just a theory. And it would have to be based on a definition of femininity as being "graceful, soft..etc" which is a product of community influence throughout history.
    That's too bad how you're being treated differently for just being more feminine, but in the end I'm sure they are just envious of you.
    btw I love your site!

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  10. whoa!! i just cut my hair short! oh no!! lmao.. interesting tho. i miss my long hair now!! haha jk. i love my short hair. esp cuz its hot and its summmerrrr!! but really, i do miss my long hair because theres nothing really i can do with this short hair. lol interesting post tho! btw i wanna join ur contest but i couldnt find any "decent" shots of miss hilton. haha i'll keep searching for the perfect one..

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  11. me too.. bf does not want me to cut my hair!! but does not hinder me.. long hair or short..i am still the boss!! a true feminist by heart.. haha

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  12. i love my short hair as long as it is long around my face.. does that make sense... :)
    have a great day POP
    mona & the girls
    are ya gonna do it..???

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  13. i never thought of it that way. i've always had long hair, but only beacause my mother would not let me cut it, she saw it asa sign of our culture and heritage, so as longas iwas living under her roof, i kept it long. and i HATED IT. it gets in the way of everything, its hard to care for, andit HOT in the summer. when i got my first apartment at 17, i cut it short immediately.!!! and it felt so good. i still felt feminine and attractive. and it was so much lighter! my head was in the clouds. my hair grows very fast, so its been short and long and in between over the past couple of years.and i ts never affected the way i feel about myself.

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  14. Well written article about your take on short hair with respect to femininity. I believe men do make correlations between femininity and hair length, but women are not walking sex objects! There are many times when I want to have a bob cut, but I had to juggle between what framed my face better, long flowing locks or short sporty hair. Short hair is soo much easier to wash too! I guess when it comes down to ease of hair styling for special events, you can't go wrong with volumous loose curls!

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  15. great post! its funny - its totally a reality in our society. i have long blonde hair and have thought many times that i would be taken more seriously at work - and people would stop assuming im 19 years old - if i were to cut it.
    but it seems like in your late 20s once you cut it...you probably are keeping it short for a while (like the rest of your life). so im just not ready yet. and according to my husband, neither is he haha.
    my best friend cut her boob-length hair in high school to a short little pixie --so cute--and a couple of guys in our class immediately started rumors that she was a lesbian. its really bizarre!
    there are so many short hairstyles that i think are adorable!

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  16. Strangely enough, my husband LOVES when I cut my hair short. I think he likes it that way because when he met me (way back in the day of 10th grade) I had short hair (with pink streaks). He loves it.

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  17. Rocks but short term, growing mine again!

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  18. when i worked corporate as a brand manager, i kept my hair short after being mistaken for an assistant with my long curly hair on more than one occasions. Somehow short hair is more serious and no nonsense.

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  19. personally, ive been told that i look prettier with long hair. i cut my hair short and i kind of regret it. my friends told me not to regret, that it will grow, and wear your hair with personality and confident. short hair has its advantages, such as, easy to take care of. but also, you cant do much with short hair. however i prefer short hair in the summer and long hair in the winter. hopefully mine will grow back by winter. short hair has many styles so be sure to check out which one you want. i got the a line bob like rihanna and it's okay. lately ive been having hard time with my bangs

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  20. wow how crazy...i was just debating with myself whether i should cut my hair short or not. Ive been wanting cut it short like posh or something extreme like one ones you see on Americas Next Top model. The super short haircut that makes the models cry. Sigh...on the other hand, Im afraid I am going to regret it. It might feel liberating to cut my hair short but I'm not sure if i will still feel pretty and feminine.

    I know my bf would hate me, but I could care less of what he thinks lol. I dont know...maybe someday I'll be brave but just chop it off.

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  21. I think Daniel would kill me if I cut my hair short. He gets upset at me everytime I goto the salon for a trim! I would love to cut my hair short, A-line but it seems like its a lot of work keeping the style and such. Thanks for this interesting post :)

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  22. I think some women look so chic with short hair. I think it's all about confidence!


    Um, with that said, I am addicted to my long hair. haha

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  23. I will be entering your contest :)

    & this is a very interesting post.

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  24. i hate short hair. you can't do anything with it.. besides tie it up because its so ugly. lol i can't wait til i grow my hair out.

    don't do it, youll regret cutting it short

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  25. I love your blog so much!
    And I'm always thinking about cutting mine short.
    Like 3 months ago I just got about 4cm cut off the ends and I was so mad, because it was so long and lovely, and I'm still mad that I let the hairdresser cut it.
    And I think that girls do look prettier with long hair, and last night I actually said to myself 'I'm going to keep it like this and grow it long', because I know I'll regret it!
    I love this post! x

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  26. I'm a guy who definitely prefers long hair on a girl. Not that I don't find girls with short hair beautiful. There are girls I know who have short hair and are very pretty. It's just that I like long hair better. I always have.

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  27. intersting article, i noticed that girls are cutting there hair short...hehe, thinkin if i should too. :)

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  28. i used to cut my hear real short back when i was in HS and college and i kinda miss it but now my bf prefers my hair longer =P

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  29. That's SO interesting! I see how it would work though. It's been seen as sexy for women to have long hair for so long, and cutting is kind of like giving the finger to any guy who sees women for only sex. That's really cool...unfortunately I have a creepy attachment to my long hair. Read anything else about that is giving the finger to guys that see you as a sex object???
    And as for Lynard Skynard, I know! Neither did I! But apparently they is, so I'm going :)

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  30. I think both long and short hair are equally sexy, and it really depends on the person. Sometimes some women look great with short hair, and vise versa. That is very interesting though, I had never thought of it that way before too. I actually cut off my hair after my boyfriend broke up with me two year ago, so I guess that was my form of rebellion. But now it is grown out again, so at that time I think I just needed a change. Sorry, I have to break your 200 mark so that you now have 201 followers! Lol, thanks for your comment. I hope you were able to relax this weekend. Take care sweetie and hope you stop over in my little world sometime soon too. ;)

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  31. Sorry,I mean, I can find many paris pictures (hit google and you come up with 71635354pics of paris XD)..but I cant find one that I can impersonate yet...but if you put some maybe it will help!! :D

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  32. Great topic and I totally know what you mean about those stupid Engr guys! F them, they're just jealous that you have social skills and intelligence whereas they are going bald and smell funny.

    I think there could be a distinction between shorter hair and super short boy hair. The latter I think is only passable by those who are truly really hot, and even then they'd probably look hotter with longer hair. However long hair looks kinda weird once you get old doesn't it?

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  33. my husband loves long hair and so has every guy i have dated in the past. I think for them, the longer the better. :)

    I love short hair on girls. I think if you can pull it off, more power to you!

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  34. I totally agree that people take you more seriously if you have shorter hair. i have never personally had short hair. I have long hair and I am very feminine and enjoy dressing girly (not schlumpy or androgynous or masculine etc)
    but everytime I received good marks or did exceptionally well on a paper (and I dont mean to brag but I am a smart girl :] ) the guys says it because i am a girl etc etc.
    I dont see why they cant just accept that my hair happens to be long AND I have a big beautiful brain!
    Its like for some reason most people subconsciously connect intelligence with a shorter and sharp hair cut.
    gets you thinking.......

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  35. I agree to some extent that males prefer longer hair. Whenever I ask my bf if I should cut my hair, he always says I should keep it long. But I personally think that short hair, if cut & styled correctly to suit one's features, can be very sexy! Just like Posh Spice & many other hott female celebrities. While many are advising me to keep my hair long, I'm seriously considering getting a shoulder-length (or even shorter) bob.

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  36. I always had short hair when I was younger....I'm a little lazy, so I like having long hair now:)

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  37. totally agree with this post. My cousin's bf who usually has no opinions had one when she commented that she was going to TRIM her waist long hair.

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  38. interesting topic..
    made me think quite a bit :P haha..
    i think this is quite true.. :P my bf prefers me to hav long hair too :P

    thnx for ur comment btw :)
    you're so funny! made me laugh wen u sed that you googled the one who wanted to ban makeup and she was plain :P

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  39. I always thought the older you get, the shorter your hair gets because it just gets in the way more & more every year. But damn, I never thought there was a science to it.

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  40. Fabulous post!!! I have long blonde hair but I'm sooo NOT Barbie. Maybe Barbie's older, fatter, uglier cousin, if that LOL I would love to have short hair but it just doesn't suit me, I've tried it many a time but I've given up now! Interesting to read other peoples comments on this issue too.

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  41. Hmmmm what your're saying is true, all of my gal pals boyfriends ALWAYS PREFERS/LIKES their hair long!

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  42. wow !! gr8 post!
    honestly.. even i had the same problem... my hair was short till 17 and now its long.. i like both- long and short. But ppl tell me long hair suits me...

    But to maintain a long hair is very difficult! every day i have to wash my hair and thats a big work for me... but im getting used to it!

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  43. Yes, you've got a strong point.

    I've heard this before and it's true, unfortunately.

    Don't get me wrong...women with short hair can also be attractive, but the long, loose, romantic hair that so seems to define feminity through the ages is lost.

    A certain personality has to come out when you have shorter hair. There is no shield, no barrier, between you and the world: you're right THERE for everyone to look at, nothing detracting from your face, your eyes. I think that's why women with short hair are very sure of themselves, outgoing if you will, IMHO, showing the world who's boss.

    Makes me want to cut my hair now. :)

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  44. so interesting that i read this the day i cut all my hair off!! haha
    for a long time i didnt cut my hair for the reasons of thinking men find it more attractive to have long hair... well after damaging it by trying to lighten it i just had to cut it all off!
    very interesting post!

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  45. Long hair vs short hair. interesting topic. For me I've always kept my hair short cause it fits my face better. Never really cared about what my boyfriend thinks or whoever thinks cause in the end, I just want to look better.

    I knew that guys do prefer girls with longer hair but for me, it has never stopped me from having short hair. If a guy likes me better merely for my 'long' hair, he can really *toot* off. I want to be liked even if I go bald one day.

    In the end of the day, to me, girls should have the hair length of their own preference. If you look good with long, keep it long, if you look better with short, keep it short. :P

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  46. wow that is so true! I cut my hair short too because it looks better short, but my ex didn't like short hair and the more he hated it the more I loved to cut it short!

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