November 29, 2009

Lookbook: Love Me...

Love me... for who I am, and not what I do or how I look.

The red vest is my latest creation from my sewing machine. It took me a few weeks to make but soo worth it!


Never take friendship for granted but also be careful. What is their intention with you? Perhaps it is to share common interest, or maybe they find you entertaining to be with. But maybe it is because they like the way you look or they see you as someone they can use to meet their means and ends later.

I stand by the fact that 90% of guys wants to be friends with girls not because they appreciate us for who we are, but how we look and what we do. I can’t count how many of my former guy friends’ intention was to “get somewhere” with me, or use me as their ego boost, or use me as a contact.

The week I broke up with my ex of 2 years I got the most number of requests to hang out than over a span of a month any other time. Most were from guys whom I don’t interact with on regular basis. Coincidence? I think not.

How many of your guy friends would still be there for you if you were ugly? How many would still be your friend if you lost your assets and resources?

45 comments:

  1. I love this post. I feel the same when it comes to guy friends. But I'm lucky enough to have a few that I can call real friends. And they've known me since I was younger and stupider and uglier. So yeah, lol.

    You look amazing with that red top. Pure creativity! Love it! :D

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  2. right on girl... i feel you on that. finding "good" friends is hard to come by nowadays cuz people want things from you that you don't know of. that's why you gotta mostly count on the ones that can see through all your bad qualities and lend a helping hand through anything and everything.

    and... LOVE your top! truly creative and beautiful. now when are you gonna start selling those? ^_^

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  3. julie!
    i think that's your name. hey my best friend's name is julien! ^_^ she's a girl so she's not trying to get at me! LOL

    anyway, i think that's so true! i hate it when i JUST want to be friends! everything is great too and then they say "i have a crush on you". wth?! where did that come from anyway?! i didn't ask for this!? and then the friendship gets awkward afterwards -_- bummer.

    i hate it when guys do that. i'll be careful next time! hehe. actually when i have relationship questions, can i come to you for help?! ^_^

    oh also, i'm for team jacob :P my latest entry will explain why... well kinda.

    p.s. i'm so jealous! did you teach yourself how to sew?

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  4. you are sooo talented! love the vest, pretty pretty! kind of makes me want to tkae up sewing again.
    i hate it when guys do that.true, genuine friends are so hard to come by

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  5. You go love, I feel the same way when it comes to certain guy friends. Sometimes you wonder if you're giving them false hope. But anyway, you are a beast on the sewing machine! I love that vest of yours babe, its beautiful<333

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  6. I agree with you! Guys out there are dogs and they only want one thing. For example, look at the guys @ the clubs/ bars. The moment my BF steps away from me, I get pestered. :T I hope your guy friends are worthy enough to keep.

    Your red top is super cute! :)

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  7. There are not many true good friends out there. Should appreciate if you even have one in your life. I am thankful I have one great friend that I've known since 2nd grade.

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  8. Looking hottt hot hot in RED :D Mmm and I totally agree with you about the opportunistic friends... that's why I don't trust many people!

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  9. i totally know what u mean... i went through the same thing before. however i am lucky to say that the few guy friends that i do have love me for who i am. lol the true test was when i got braces a few years back with 4 teeth removed gaps and all and they teased me but where always there for me when other guys were not as nice about it.

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  10. wow u can sew a vest !?!hrhr
    yeay am i count as ur blogspot friend?haha of course
    :P
    btw sbout the guy coming ont to u when u broke up yeah maybe its almost impossible for man n woman to be friends without something else thats why they wait until u broke up and make a move ASAP.hehe

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  11. im lucky so far i have a few that still hang on to me, tru the good & bad times.

    owh, the red, look great on u. u r very talented, babe!

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  12. Wow! The vest is really pretty!

    And aww... I'm the opposite for some reason lol. I think I make better connections with guys than with girls. o_O; Most of my long-time friends who have really been there for me during tough times are actually guys.

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  13. you're sewing your own vest? how awesome is that!

    i don't have many guy friends though, but definitely not easy to find a good guy friend without something else.

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  14. you look gorgeous as ever!! red really brings out that fire in you hehe

    lol! yeah i agree with being friends with a guy thing, there is always that sexual tension. Either they want to hook up with you or you secretly want to hook up with them! There was a rumor once that my bf and I had a fight and broke up and there were quite plenty of offers of shoulders for me to cry on haha

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  15. love the vest!!! gorgeous! you look hot in red!! ^_^

    i have only a few guy friends and i think they'd still be my friends. hehehe (i think is the key word) LOL

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  16. Love the vest red realy compliments you, nice detail

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  17. i agree, your statement is definitely true. most guys just operate that way. it's pretty disgusting, but really, it's life.

    on another note, LOVE the red vest! you are soooo talented!

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  18. I totally agree with u!!

    & you've got some talent!!That red vest rocks..

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  19. Hello Pop :)

    You are so talented. Since I got to a mature thinking and outgrown my pink antics, I've loved and preferred a deeper color which is red. Not to mention it's outstanding in the crowd too.

    I love the vest so much and I wish I could buy it! I always wanted to be crafty and I envy on your talent! You are beautiful too!

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  20. Julie!! you sew!! oh my oh my, I want to have your hands! hahaha I really want to learn to sew> do you learn it yourself from book? i love the cardi!! :D
    hmmm...interesting subject you got there> I often wonder the same thing too, not myself of course. Fortunately (or not maybe?hahaha) when I was in the phase of meeting my guys friend I didnt have the look that could make someone want to be 'more' than just a friend with me hahaha...
    well, now that my best guys friends are (almost) all married, we dont make contact as much as we used to anymore...but at least I know it's not because of my look XD XD :p

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  21. Wow..u r so talented..I love ur red vest , looks so cute^^
    I am thankful to God that I am blessed with good friends^^

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  22. POP! I totally get what u mean... a lot of guys wana be my " fren" and as soon as they know I'm married, they turn to ice. Its like there's no point knowing WHO I am if they can't be more than friends with me.. that's when I turned more to my girlfrens who don't have any other "intentions" than to be my fren. beauty blogging has also helped me feel more " normal" cause everyone here loves beauty and cosmetics like me:)

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  23. the red vest is gorgeous! your very creative. :) I'm agreeing with others, & you definitely got talent. & I'm a new follower, so take care!

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  24. omg u little skank !haha
    at least she left it thats why u took it,not forcing her to give it to u while her mom is in the toilet
    :P
    i was so lucky maybe the girl saw me and pity me how a 18 year old girl running around smiling asking for ballooon maybe she thought i was retarted?LMAO !

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  25. WOW! What a fantastic loook! look soooo diva! hihi!

    X♥X♥

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  26. You're so welcome! i thank you for the great prize too
    JS' packaging is too great to resist.
    now to think about that, i don't have any really close guy friend. haha..

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  27. J, I'm sorry to hear about the break up. You sound good but if not, I'm just an email away...

    It's true. It took me a long time to see that and had to learn the hard way a time or two. Talk about awkward moments. And headaches and big fights with S.

    I'm glad you see these guys for what they are. Keep being careful and stay away from the creepies :)

    Take care, you.
    xx
    Ela

    p.s. Amazing job with that vest. Wish you lived closer so you could teach me how to sew!

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  28. haha i would like it if guys looked at me in romantic way but has never been the case with me! hehehe its like reverse for me im the friend that gets talked to about OTHER girls huuuuuhh

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  29. this is such a hard question because i have so many guy friends!

    i can't believe you made that vest...it's beautiful!

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  30. So true...guys have motives as to why they talk to us...why they hang around. Sad, but true!!!!

    Ahhh...that vest...I WANT ONE :)

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  31. You're sooo talented. I love the red top you made! It's really pretty =)
    Well, you know what?! It's not just guys - women too for me at least. That's why I have two close friends only and one of them is my boyfriend. Honestly I have a LOT of people I only consider acquaintances and yes, many of them haven't seen me without makeup on/not dressed up so there is a superficial side to it. It's okay though - I think you just have to learn from experience where certain people stand in your life. There are always people that will keep in touch with you for their own personal gains and I admit to doing it to - absolutely. But it's a give and take right? I think being nice to people, following your own good judgement and learning not to be taken advantage of will get people far in life when interacting with people. Okay...I'm waaaay off topic now LOL.

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  32. This is a great post. Thanks for the reminder. ;D Is it you who made that vest? Gorgeous! ;D


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  33. thank you gurrrl but i have to say i like your entry MUCH better million times the Harvest queen that you did was just brilliant no lie

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  34. I agree with everything you said up there, and that red vest is seriously rocking. I wish I could sew!

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  35. Awww very well said. I was in that same position a few years ago too. But I could always count on my real friends to fall back on even when we couldn't hang out at much when I did have a boyfriend. Real friends are hard to find and hard to keep. Those who are there should be well treasured. =)

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  36. ha~ good point. my best friends are guys but they're either bi or gay.ha~ it's very true about most of the other guys though~~

    love the red top^^ xx

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  37. oh dear.. i have to be honest here..
    i had only one girl friend in my life.. and she was the best friend i ever had.. and now i find lots of girls but all are too boring and are not interested to have girl friends.. and most of my good friends are guys!
    And i agree with ChinkyGirlMel , real friends are hard to find and hard to keep!

    as usual you look gorgeous .. just like a doll!

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  38. I love the vest! It's so unique and only you will have it :)

    I really don't think any of my guy friends would be friends with me if I were ugly or to lose all my assets! HAHA, but then again I'm not really close to any anyway and I don't really have very many.. I just have my boyfriend :D ...and now I think about it, I have no friends! I guess I have trouble keeping them because most of the ones I make are just still too immature for me. Maybe I've had to much experience in life! I can't get along with anyone really that's my age :T

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  39. I totally agree with you though I haven't had the same experience yet since most guys I know already have gfs.><"
    wow I'm so amazed by your red vest!! I recently took up sewing lessons and man it was quite difficult making just one pj pants! Did you buy a pattern?

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  40. I completely agree. I think it's a combination of looks and your fun-factor/humor. I think guys hate being around someone who's always a downer or too high-maintenance, but at the same time if you're a tomboy they'll lose interest in you, because at the back of their heads, they will want to hang out with someone they would have the potential of dating. Awesome outfit... you look fantastic in red!

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