August 30, 2010

Book Review: "If You Have To Cry, Go Outside" by Kelly Cutrone

If you watch “The Hills” or “The City” then are probably familiar with Kelly Cutrone. Kelly is one of the founders of People’s Revolution, a PR company for fashion and marketing base in New York and LA. In Kelly’s most recent published book “If you have to cry, go outside”, Kelly explains how she became successful as well as give tips to aspiring people who would like to work in the fashion industry with no connections.

Whether you want to be a trophy wife, a CEO or actually be in the fashion industry, this book has great tips. One can’t deny that Kelly is a very driven lady who has made a name for herself as well as earning other’s respect in the fashion industry. Kelly’s book is more than a self help book- It also teaches you how to market yourself and how to deal with sticky situations.

I find myself looking forward to reading this book every night before going to bed. Even though I am not interested in doing PR there are definitely things which she talks about that I can heavily relate to. Kelly has made it clear that life isn’t one size fit all and that it takes more than intelligence to succeed. Here are some highlights from the book:

Tips on life:

“If you want to be extra-ordinary- you will not get there by hanging around a bunch of people who tell you you’re not extraordinary. Instead, you will probably become as ordinary as they expect you to be. We have a saying in New York: when you’re the most happening person at the party, it’s time to leave.” –P.18

“We are programmed to be terribly afraid of rejection… Often the problem is not that parents didn’t encourage their kids to dream, but that parents were so encouraging that those dreams became their children’s expectations” – P.144

“Your success is an invitation to others to use you as a blank slate onto which they can project fears, aspirations and prejudices” –P.165


Tips on work:

“Every successful brand has a message, and that message must be painstakingly driven home, in both appearance and substance. In the same way, when a company hires you, remember what you sold them to get the job and be consistent in providing it.” –P.138

“When my employees make a mistake, I want them to fix the problem as quickly as possible and move on. The last thing I or any other boss wants to hear is , ‘wahhh, I was just trying to be helpful, wahhhh!’” –P.159


The book is a easy and good read for any woman, whether you’re still in school or having a career. I felt quite motivated after I was done. This is one of the first books I’ve ever finished reading since the mandatory “To Kill A Mocking Bird” from high school. Now that I think about it, I don’t remember much of the mocking bird book other than there actually isn’t anything to do with killing mocking birds and that the moral of the story is to always blame the drunken dude with the shot gun.


Kelly with her daughter Ava Cutrone

45 comments:

  1. I loved reading this book too! Great tips tips to be reminded of, thank you. While on my way to dinner passed by her L.A. office last week and noticed the windows were covered. Hoping that things are just as successful for her now. I loved her show!
    xx
    Gina

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  2. I read this in the beginning of the summer. Literally took me less then a week to get through. I thought it was inspirational and enteraining. When I wasn't reading her book I wished I was. haha. I think every woman should read this book. I love Kelly Cutrone. She is an awesome strong woman!

    http://fashionistanygirl.blogspot.com/

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  3. I've watched a few episodes of the City (just to see Olivia P, really) and I didn't realise that Kelly was "real". (Ok, I feel a bit silly.) Sounds like good advice, though, I like the one about the party...

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  4. Haha! I just did a blog post about wanting to get this book. :))

    Kelly Cutrone also has/had her own reality show titled Kell On Earth. She's really an admirable woman. She's not the usual woman who you see on TV, she seems actually "real", she's strong and not just another fancy-shmansy fabulous looking woman.

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  5. Sounds interesting... I love the pictures.

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  6. I agree with all of her advices, especially the part about crying. I always say you shouldn't show others how vulnerable you are because they might throw your weakness in your face later. And I like the part about how you should dump people who make you feel mediocre because you'll end up like them. So true, sounds like a great book thank you for sharing.

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  7. Thanks for posting about this book, I completely forgot she wrote one.:D

    Happy Monday!:D

    ***** Marie *****
    allthingsmarie.com

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  8. oh wow. i'm already liking the tips..
    i'm gonna go look for this in my local bookstores. :D thanks for the recommendation.

    thyaudaciousness.blogspot.com/

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  9. Kelly is tough. I have seen her on her own show. I agree with her on the crying part. I think its unprofessional to cry at work and I have never done it and would never do it.

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  10. She is a tough business woman, I used to watch her show. She definitely has a charisma.

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  11. the book contains really good tips you should keep in your mind!!!!!

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  12. LOL I love your review =D

    This book really looks like a page-turner! thanks for the info. xoxo

    And thanks fo yor sweet comments on my blog darling.

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  13. Sounds like a really interesting book!
    I wonder, is it available world wide? :)

    Great review btw!
    CastorPolux

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  14. Oh I've wanted to read this book! Love Kelly and your review is fabulous! :)

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  15. Very inspirational... I'll hit the book store one day and have a read about it :)

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  16. I want to read this book now! Hopefully they have it at the library. :] You reviewed it so well.

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  17. Sounds like a great read...I love Kelly. Such a blunt bitch...but smart too!

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  18. I´m a huge fan of hers. I would love to read the book

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  19. uugh powerful influential women! need this book <3

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  20. i want to read this book now.

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  21. I think I NEED this book.

    Love Grace.

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  22. I watch The City a lot and Kelly Cutrone comes across as an intimidating woman. But behind the attitude she brings a lot of intelligence and intuition to the table, which I like. Judging from the quotes you provided, it sounds like the book is full of "tough love" sort of advice--the things that "nice" people are too wishy-washy to tell you but which are actually true. I kind of want to find it and read it now. Thanks for the recommendation!

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  23. I loved this book! Such a strong woman. :)

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  24. she is so right about that rejection and dreams thing! i am definitely going to get this book. :)

    <3, Mimi
    http://whatmimiwrites.blogspot.com/

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  25. Hey!
    A friend from my fashion class told me to get this book, he told me I would love it. I still haven't gotten yet...I need to get this.
    Also, Lauren's style book comes out in Oct, can't wait for that. Good, I have so many books on my wish list, I need to get on that.

    $armin<3

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  26. I placed this book on hold at the library a couple of months ago, I'm just waiting for my turn. Yes, I'm a geek, i still 'rent' books from the library ; ) I really look forward to reading it!

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  27. Her tips make sense though she seems like a hard boss-look at poor Roxy, always getting rough words from her on The City

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  28. Im definitely going to have to pick this book up....sounds great...thanks for stopping by today, super sweet of you:)

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  29. I've been thinking about reading this... thanks for the review!

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  30. Kelly Cutrone is suuuper intimidating, she tells it like it is, but you gotta give it to her, she does know what she's talking about ! Nice review , I'm actually gonna check out the book now :-)

    www.mlletrendy.blogspot.com

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  31. If my wife ever dumps me, I'm setting my sights on being a trophy husband...I understand that can be a lot of work.

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  32. I love the quotes you shared. She really hits the nail on the head. Her directness is one of the things I really love about her. I've been meaning to read this book, thank you for the nudge. Great post.

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  33. Great review. I really want to read it now!! :)sarahD

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  34. LOVE this book!! Read it back in the spring and fell in love with it. Love Cutrone. She's genious.

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  35. I like the excerpts you took from the book. I find good motivational novels or talks to be helpful and inspirational. I will keep that book in mind! As I am just like yourself....I really don't think I even read half the assigned novels in high school and I didn't even get the Coles notes for them. I don't think what I did (not reading novels assigned) was intelligent but I did it anyways and got great grades somehow LOL. Wow, was To Kill A Mockingbird about shotguns. Maybe I should have read it! LOL

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  36. i actually read this book a few months ago and totally loved it. she has great advice whether you like PR or not. and she is a great writer who obviously has a lot of life experiences.

    i would definitely recommend the book! glad you liked it.

    http://ohtobeamuse.com

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  37. Read the book and I really enjoyed it :) Pleasantly surprised, especially since I don't watch any of the shows she's been on. But I like her advice. And I felt motivated to start "moving and shaking" after I finished reading it :)

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  38. I love love love KC and really must pick up that book!

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  39. Never seen this book but seems really interesting!! I might just go and pick one up! Thankx luv ^^

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  40. ohhhh, time for me to read this book. im a marketing major so this should be uber helpful. hehee thanks Pop for the heads up!!!

    btw, i read mockingbird too. it was alright with the drama and all. but what made it stick to my head was the "freak" of the town, Boo Riley (i think that's his name) :D

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