September 24, 2012

Don't Give A Damn


I was extremelly upset last week, I looked like a mess at work and I was eating nothing but oreos because that was all I had appetite for. Eventually the sane Julie kicked in. What's going to happen? I really want to do X, but expected to do Y, what will people think? yadda yadda. But, WHO CARES?

That day I went on a unfriend rampage on Facebook and unfriended 300 people.

While I should be diplomatic, I'm at a point where I need to declutter the noise if I want to move forward with my life. At the end of the day, I really don't care about someone who I crossed paths with years ago, we disliked each other, but we are "friends" on facebook? Why!?

I am unfriending you because I don't care about your updates consist of redundant instagrams and that you can afford not to have a real job and do yoga all day. I don't care that I once went on a date with you if I didn't bother to call you back, why should I now care about your status updates?

I am unfriending you because all you send me are club invites and want me to vote for you for some online contest. They are annoying. And if we never hang out or talk outside social functions, why do you expect me to care or support you now?

I don't want to unfriend you. The only memories I have of you are when you and your friends picked on me in middle/high school and now your life is a mess and you look like a mess and I chuckle when you pop up on my news feed. But, that is petty of me so I am unfriending you.

I am unfriending you because you say a lot of dumb things that piss me off.

I am also unfriending you because I can, and it makes me feel powerful.


Try it out, you REALLY do feel better after. I promise.

56 comments:

  1. amazin dress!!!! happy monday sweety=))) xx

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  2. Deleting 'friends' on fb that you don't talk to or care feels good. Been there, done it. :) And I'm glad you have too.

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  3. I know what are you talking about, since I decided to do it some weeks ago. It's something all of us should do, since sometimes we do things we don't want to do and that has no sense. We waste energy on people aren't worth it and that's useless.

    Well done. And lovely outfit. I hope you're better now.

    www.darkholicfashion.blogspot.com.es

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  4. I have those days and your right, they do make you feel better. I don't feel the need to surround myself with people that don't care or only do when it suits them. I like to de-clutter in all aspects of life, it's great for the soul :) You look gorgeous :)

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  5. Great post, I just unfriended a few people for pissing me off. It's such a great feeling. Anyway, great dress, love the shoes!

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  6. I've done this too. Why be facebook friends with people you're not even friendly with in "real life"? I need to declutter some more - thanks for the inspiration!

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  7. Wow! You go girl!!! Love your dress & heels.
    Happy Monday Hun xoxo
    http://www.intotheblonde.com/

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  8. You're absolutely right. Sometimes you need to declutter your life with removing people who don't provide positive energy or help you become a better person.

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  9. I cleaned out my Facebook a few months ago and axed a bunch of people...and it felt pretty damn awesome.

    Courtney ~ http://sartorialsidelines.com

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  10. Some people are so draining, good idea :) love the dress sweetie

    Bee happy x

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  11. One of my faves from you!!!! love this A LOT!
    Have a great week

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  12. Haha, yeah I need to do some of that. I haven't cleaned out my FB, like, ever, so it's really getting bad! Anyway, I love this gorgeous outfit!

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  13. hahaha, glad to know you're less upset now ^_^ and looking stunning like always.
    I also unfriended probabaly about 20 people last week. LOL!
    just because I could care less what they do with their life.

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  14. That's something that sometimes you have to do beacuse you need it!
    I hope you're OK!
    Have a nice day dear!

    xoxo

    eLi

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  15. Love the dress...
    btw, I give you an award..please check it out
    http://blackblueblizzard.blogspot.com/2012/09/versatile-blog-award.html#more

    Love,Leonita
    www.blackblueblizzard.blogspot.com

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  16. Hahaa, you really know how to brighten up my Monday. Love this rant! You look gorgeous and I can just totally picture you going on a defriending rampage while wearing something amazing like this. :)

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

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  17. I do this like every three months I just clean out my fb of people I don´t even know who they are...its liberating. Beautiful dress.

    hugs
    Andru
    The Black Label

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  18. I agree, FB can get cluttered real fast. I only really have close family and friends on mine. I don't feel the need to have a gazillion friends on FB whom I don't even know.

    Great dress btw!

    -Msee

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  19. I completely know what you mean ! Unfriending people really can get you feeling....really empowered. I'm glad you're feeling a bit better though. Also, You look really great in that picture. Hope your week goes well!

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  20. I bet we all have those days, anyways you look fab, love your assimetric dress!

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  21. I'm tempted to do the same haha. These days, I hang out on Twitter more often than FB precisely because there are a lot of meaningless FB friends I don't care to keep in touch with or talk to.

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  22. You go girl, I think I need to do the same thing. Definitely need to clean out my Facebook along with my closet...aha.
    Anyway, fantastic dress and of course, that galaxy jacket again...*sigh* I love it ;)

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    Trendy Teal

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  23. I did something similar a few weeks ago, and it was life changing! I'm your newest follower :)

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  24. You know, I was so pissed in the beginning of the summer, because everybody on facebook started stalking me. People were so jealous, because I moved on in my life. Then I decided to check my friends list and unfriend some of them. That turned out to 300. Then it came to more and more.. I didn't want some people to know anything about me personal, to SHARE with them, or I didn't want them to see my pics and then gossip a lot. Finally , I deleted my Facebook account. And you know, life is so much better without it :) You should try it sometime;}

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  25. It's like that, people simply "friend" you on there for no apparent reason, forgetting all they've done and think that by having you on fb as friend, the past will be forgotten. But good for you that you went on an unfriending spree. It's necessary from time to time.

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  26. Hahaha! This really made me want to unfriend some people on FB (and I probably should). Very pretty dress, and I'm glad you no longer give a damn.

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  27. yeah i do this every now and then :) im glad you're feeling better too :)

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  28. LOVEEE your dress! Anyway, unfriending is a great way to let off steam!

    XOXOJOANNIE
    ANURBAN-EXPLORER.BLOGSPOT.COM

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  29. I'm sorry you had such a rough week. You looked great in asian glow, but I know that's not important, considering how you felt. If X will make you happy, do X....unless the price is dangerously high??? Sane Julie will make the right choice.

    Thanks for keeping me!!!

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  30. omg, i did that the other day... it truly is satisfying! i'm glad it helped get you out of a funk :)

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  31. I have to agree you on the unfriending thingy...why be friends on FB if in real life you disgust over each other. I do that as well, I unfriend a few people because I think that it is really annoying to kept seeing "that" person feeds on my FB.. The outfit totally matches the "theme" bold & fierce! Go girl ^_~

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  32. i actually deleted my fb account b/c of that reason and also b/c i was getting tired of friends fbing me instead of calling/texting. after i deleted my fb the friends that mattered called and text to see if things were ok. i prefer to keep in touch the 'old fashion' way i guess. lol. sometimes we just need to simplify or reassess what / who really matters in our lives.

    Love, Youa

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  33. you do look liberated and carefree. love the dress!
    hope you have a great week, Julie. ;)

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  34. Love your whole outfit! You just motivated me to go and defriend a bunch of people. So far, I've defriended 10, but I'm still sorting through everyone.

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  35. I love to social prune! It's good for your soul

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  36. I love this post!! And it the only reason why I have 30 friends on FB and most of them are family. LOL. The drama just gets old. So good for you! I love your sheer jacket. The colors are super pretty! <3

    toni
    The Love Hanger

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  37. I totally agree, defriending is like detox... although I don't friend many people in the first place...

    xx maggie
    saltandleather.blogspot.com

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  38. AMEN.

    I love this post so, so much. I agree with EVERYTHING you said. Even though I've had FB for eight years now, I'm still dumbfounded that on a daily basis I know every little freaking unimportant detail about people I barely spoke to in high school. When I was 16, I would have been gobsmacked to learn that 12 years later, I would know every single meal eaten every single day by the girl who sat next to me in algebra, but never spoke to me. How are people not freaked out about this creepy phenom?!?

    This post reminds me I need to clean up my friends list...

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  39. Love this!!! I constantly feel the same way about "friends" on Facebook. You're so right!

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  40. I sooo love this post! Thanks for sharing! Great shot by the way!

    Vanessa

    http://thepinkmateproject.blogspot.com/

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  41. Oh god it happened to me few days ago when i unfriended an ex classmates i never stand and then i discovered she wrote something on her profile like "people that unfriend you 'cause they think the can hurt you"! Oh please! Everyone thinks to be so important in the whole world but they don't understand that we don't care about them!

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  42. i just love this look! the space-y print on your top is fantastic. oh, and i always find it funny how put off people get after being defriended on facebook. even if we aren't really real-life-friends. it's so silly!

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  43. HAHAHA you go girl! I unfriended a shit ton of people on FB just recently as well. Sadly, when drunk, my phone decided to trick me into adding 7 of them back. Not cool, iPhone! >_>"

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  44. Good for you. It took me well into my 20s to realize, "Hey. I'm an adult now. I don't have to be friends with you if I don't have to. I'm too old to play this shit." And while I may have done that to an extreme, as in I have near to no friends these days ... oops, it felt and continues to feel good. Quality over quantity.

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  45. Good one!! I used to have tons of "friends" in facebook and skype, and one day the breaking point helped me see what dumb assess were everyone, so I unfriended a looot of people, but the most refreshing thing was deleting my facebook account. Feeling so much better :D

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  46. You look stunning !

    Kate
    petite-adventures.blogspot.ca

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  47. haha i suppose that's the mature way to go about it! :)

    and wow you look so pretty and the dress is beautiful! :D

    wishuponasmile.blogspot.com

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  48. Absolutely love this jacket! Who is it by? I agree, every now and then, a liberating purge of fake friends is needed! Way to go!

    -Tiffany
    http://stylesidebar.blogspot.com/

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  49. I like your outfit!

    Yet another reason why I don't like Facebook, it's too hypocritical for me!

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