July 17, 2013


{Photos by Zach; wearing Tibi pants, Zara top, Marc by Marc Jacobs bag, Smart Set Fedora}

A few days ago I had a very frustrating conversation. It got to a point that I just went silent. I realized I can try to explain how I feel until I am blue in the face and it would still be as though I am talking to a brick wall. Then I realized that my conversations with this person it has been like this with this for months now.

I know why this happened. I’ve been told that I’ve changed a lot these past 4 months. But people are supposed to change and adapt to whatever is being thrown at them. The issue is that some don’t like the change because now you don’t fit into their lives. And instead of embracing the change they keep shoving their views at you trying to change you back.

Anyway, my change doesn’t bother me. I feel I’ve learned a lot these few months. It’s having to defend myself to people that think I ought to live a certain way which bother me.


  1. Real friends want you to change, to always keep growing, because they know being the best you can be is what happiness is all about.

  2. That is so frustrating, and I've been going through a similar situation! But I agree with Pomeline, genuine people accept and embrace you and your change no matter what.
    But more importantly, I LOVE your outfit. The top half is very Jcrew meets Anthropologie, and the bottom half is sort of Free People meets Anthropologie. So what I'm trying to say is, I LOVE IT.

    Juliette Laura

  3. Love your shoes and necklace! Blah, that must be really frustrating. But change is definitely good, we're supposed to be continuously growing right?

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

  4. I love your wedges. :) This looks like such comfy outfit :}

  5. Yeah...I think one of the hardest lessons I've learned (well...am still learning) is that there are some people out there that take differing opinions as an insult somehow and refuse to even consider the idea that they may be wrong... and in those cases it's just better to say nothing.

    Love the shoes! ahh wedges.... The pants are really something too...I doubt I could pull it off, but you look pretty good!

  6. Wow Julie, I can totally relate.. positive change is needed. The ones who can't accept it usually aren't worth it or are just afraid to get left behind.

    Cute summery outfit!

  7. That's why I'm without friends now. I changed so fast and so drastic people got all weird about it.
    Love your practical and comfy outfits ^_^

  8. Super cute outfit!! I love it :)
    Have a nice day hun!!


  9. Sounds like a frustrating situation all-around.

  10. Hopefully that person will learn what you have...someday.

  11. People can point blank refuse to listen. You're right, it's impossible to sway them unless they have a change of heart, but that's rare. Continue growing and learning though!
    Btw, loooove your floral strap wedges :)

    The Dragonfruit Diaries

  12. "Getting old is mandatory, growing up is optional."

    Don't mind them Dear, if they really love you they would be happy for you and support you all the way and not try to bring you down. Stay strong! :)

    By the way, I love the wedges, very perfect for the summer season. :)

    Ericka from The Philippines

  13. You look great and I really like your shoes! It's a shame that you had to lose some friends, but it's important to always be changing and to be new every once in awhile. (:

  14. Hey amazing outfit babe, love how you style up a simple casual outfit! Guess we can't please everyone around us but it will be a happy thing if everyone just embrace differences instead of pushing their views to us.

    Fang Ting

  15. You stand your ground missy! Good for you. And yes! You should take the trip down to niagara on the lake.its so picturesque and relaxing.I loved it. Minus the longer drive because of the ridiculous gta traffic. But so worth it if you are looking for some peace and adventure

  16. Change is inevitable and people should learn to accept that fact. One cannot just intentionally stagnate and delay their growth just because some people can be too stubborn to accept the changes.

    BTW, love the way you twisted the bottom part of your tanktop and the over-all comfy and good vibes feel of this outfit. :)


  17. Your outfit looks as comfortable as a pair of pyjamas and is super chic at the same time. I'm going to need to get me a pair of pants like yours. Love how your fedora, necklace and shoes add the perfect amount of fun to your look!


  18. Adorable supper look! Super nice for vocation!

  19. Woooow!!!! So cool n sooo comfy 4 hot summer day;))))) hat, wegdes r perfect!!!!! xoxo

  20. chic look, love the necklace. and a person should never shove their views on you,
    esp if they know where you stand on the issue.


  21. I'm glad to here your happy with these changes, I mean after all, that's what counts, right? I can sure relate to what you're saying:

  22. Change is just a part of life, everyone goes through them. The people that matter support and care for you while you grow and change. Also, loving the shoes

  23. SO in love with your pants <3 and those shoes! this whole outfit is styled perfectly :) love it dear

    Alexa <3

  24. i think it's definitely good to go along with the changes in our lives. :)

    <3, Mimi

  25. Changes can be good indeed, and those who can't deal with them, that's their bad! You look great by the way!

    XO Imke

  26. People are changin, everything is changing, it's such a decree of nature. In essences, changes are a playing an important role in our lives, and it's really important to make a change in a better way, to become nicer, wiser, kinder.
    Also I've got to say that you look wonderful and I like this casual chic outfit!
    Thank You for sharing such a nice post!
    Have a happy time!


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  28. I've been going through the same thing with the hubby at the start of this year so I know how frustrating it can be doll, chin up and forget the people and don't embrace you for who you are :)

  29. this is such a great outfit! love it from head to toe, especially the harem pants!

  30. I love the ease and comfort of your outfit, it's so perfect for the summer. The addition of the fedora is so, so chic! And I'm sorry to hear that you're having difficulty with this person. You're right, change is part of our evolution, so keep your head up.

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