September 23, 2013

Don't Feel Bad

{photos by Zach and me; wearing Jacob moto jacket, Sheinside pants}

Ahh preparing fall with my favorite tweed jacket from Jacob. I had a one on one with my manager at work the other day. He asked me standard HR questions such as "do you like your job?" and "where do you see yourself in 5 years?". I hate that second question. I can't foresee the future, plans change and shit happens. But I do believe that things happen for a reason.

On a lighter note, I finally got the new camera lens I've been wanting. I'm so happy.

Things you don't have to feel bad about 

1. Ordering fries with your meal instead of salad 
You're out and you're not working. So if you want to order fries, JUST DO IT. Salad might be more healthy, but you have every other day at home to eat like a buddha monk. Just enjoy!

2. Asking for what's yours 
The only person who will fight for you is yourself. Too often we hope others will read our mind and give us what we want instead of us flat out asking. Asking can be awkward and sometimes there will never be a good time to ask, but when you look back you will be glad that at least you asked instead of thinking if only.

3. Not going out with your friends 
It is okay to stay home and go to bed at 10pm on a friday night instead of going out with friends. You're not being anti-social. This does not mean that you are an introvert. And even if you are, that is not a bad thing. We all need our own personal time to recharge. You're not letting anyone down by skipping out doing tequila shots. If they're real friends, they will understand.

4. Jumping from jobs to jobs 
Times have changed. Unlike our grandparents, we don't just stay in our one job for 10 years. Unlike our parents, we can't just move to a foreign country with $20 and become established. You won't hear stories such as "Toni Braxton got discovered while she was humming at the gas station" in our generation. Job market has become far more competitive. Companies restructure and layoff employees all the time. There is no loyalty anymore. So if you want to take a job to make ends meet and meanwhile map your escape route, do it. Just don't share your escape route too soon. Not until it's time.

5. Fight for your opportunities 
"The world is your oyster" but it is other's too. The world is one giant competitive oyster that everyone is fighting to get a piece. So keep your eyes peeled and fight for opportunities. Everything worth having comes with a fight.

6. Changing your mind 
You will change your mind and you will change your mind again. Your friends will change and they will change their minds. Things that will kill you probably won't. Things that you thought you would never do you will probably do. Things you thought you can never live without you actually can. The greatest lessons are only learned the hard way anyway, so just go with the flow.

If your job is making you miserable, find another one. If your significant other take you for granted, end it. If you have friends that mentally exhaust you, ditch them. The world is a big place and there will be other jobs, other relationships and other friendships if you keep an open mind. Just own up to your decisions, though.


  1. Wowie, did Toni Braxton really got discovered just by that?
    Very nice pictures as usual, are those pomegranate?

  2. wow!!!! sooooo stylish look)))) like leather skinny n blazer)))) happy monday, sweety)))) xoxo)))))

  3. Everything about this post is awesome!
    The look is amazing and your words are so true and a good call to remember and act on.
    Thank you for sharing!

  4. i love your style and this look is one of my favs!

    xoxo from rome

  5. Great post! love the first pic :)

  6. I absolutely love your jacket!!!

  7. I did #2 this weekend! HAHAHA I kept wondering about a person and just came out point blank with what I wanted to know. I hate fickleness. I like to know what I'm doing. Gorgeous photos! Congratulations on the new lens. I love that jacket.

  8. I absolutely love this post, you're so wise. These are things that I need to constantly remind myself of, especially the second and third points. I'm also a huge fan of your outfit, those pants in particular!

  9. Were these photos taken with your new lens? Gorgeous!

    Thursday is bad for me. Sunday night? Otherwise Oct. 2 or 3 work too.

  10. I love this post...great advice! I agree from start to finish--including the "5 year" question. I told one boss that since I stay in jobs an average of 3 years, I would probably be somewhere else. That guy needed me badly, so I was being honest and teasing him at the same time.

    PS - If I don't get time alone to recharge my batteries, eventually they blow-up. :)

  11. What camera lense are you using? I love the pictures! :)

    oh gosh, I always feel bad when I change my mind because I feel like I'm going to let someone down.
    I shall try not to feel bad. :3

  12. Yes, plans change, so true. Great post! With this economy being versatile and mobile does nothing, but helps you! I never apologise for doing what you want and love to do, even if it's ordering fries! haha. xx/Madison

  13. Beautiful photos! My friend and I were talking about how we feel bad skipping out on friends, but sometimes, it's just more relaxing to stay at home.

  14. Eurgh, SUCH good advice - I am sticking on the last one - my job is making me pretty miserable which in turns effects other areas of your life.

    ♥ Paula Shoe Fiend.

  15. Hey- I never feel bad ordering fries! You look great in purple btw!


  16. "Not going out with your friends"

    It's just that sometimes, people do not understand that we do need our personal time alone and that the week has been really stressful that I'd love to just stay at home, watch tv, read and just sleep. Hahaha! :)


  17. You've always got such awesome, practical advise! I love how you put it too - haha, it makes me laugh most of the time :)
    Love the burgundy jacket! The texture is perfect for fall outfits

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  18. Great post!

    5 years from now? more happiness and contentment for me. I feel bad about a lot of things lately. I really should move on and find what's best and would make me happy. Thanks!

    Oh, love your hair color by the way and the outfit is fab too! plus the view is amazing <3 keep it up! xo

  19. Amazing look and beautiful pics!!!!
    Kisses doll!

  20. Beautiful pics! And I love your jacket♥♥♥

  21. Haha, now I will feel a bit less guilty for ordering french fries! :D
    Really cool post, I found it very useful! :)

  22. All of these are so true! I love your jacket and I hope you will have fun with your new lens!

  23. Beautiful! And it does actually look a little bit like the area I just visited (that you saw on my blog). Really beautiful pictures!

    Lots of love!

  24. Good for you Miss PopChampagne!

    I agree on the enumeration of the things that we don't have to worry about especially on the number 3! :) Having a busy schedule with a very limited time to rest made me prioritize rest than socializing. =) Health is wealth! :D

    Ericka of

  25. Beautiful pictures and I love the jacket so much. Great post. I totally hate those questions about jobs too especially where you see yourself in a number of years. I've had so many job interviews this year and that's what I hated the most

  26. Looking so lovely! Well written post. I totally agree with your points. And yes, I too do not know where I see myself in the future and hate answering questions like those! Have a great weekend :)

  27. WOW, great post and at first when I read the title of this post I was expecting anything. However after reading it... I feel happy because all your points are extremely valuable and true!!
    Great post and love the outfit especially the jacket

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