October 2, 2013

Being Busy Is The New Being Cool

By your mid 20's, unless you are from a wealthy family so you don't need to work as hard or you are a trophy wife who have a fluky "entrepreneurial business" on the side to pass your time while idolizing the women on Real Housewives reality shows until you get knocked up... I think most of us realized that you can either work you ass off at a job, have money but no time to spend it, or have all the time in the world but no money because you're unemployed. Balance is not as easy as our parents' days.

We are all busy. We have our jobs, our other job, side projects, hobbies, sports, errands to run, meetings, time with friends and family. We all have a life outside of work. I had a friend whom every time I asked "how are you doing?" she always answered: "ugh, soooo busy" or "busy with soo many projects!". When I attend fashion events it's always the same people who stress how busy they are. To be honest it has been 2 years and I still have no clue what those people do on daily basis.

Being busy is cool. Being busy is brag worthy. I dated a guy for months who took days to reply back to my text because he was "too busy". Everything was tentative and he would spontaneously cancel because he was too busy to commit his time. It was unfair that I was always put on hold. Eventually when I broke it off, he accused me that I didn't understand and support his busy lifestyle.

Telling someone that you are more busy than them is the new way of saying that you are cooler than them. You're too busy with your job and projects because everyone wants you. It's brag-worthy because you are desirable. You are in demand and you are successful.

I'm not trying to belittle someone's workload. But we all know that if we want to do something, we will find time for it- I will always have time to spend a few hours on the phone with my family but I can never find time to pay for my phone bill. So if someone is too busy to be with you or just to say hello, they most likely don't think you're worth their time.

If Meryl Streep have time for her family, Angelina Jolie have time to still do all those charity work, and Taylor Swift have time to vacay and date up a storm, I'm sure we can all find a balance. I mean, there is such things as "being organized", "work smart" and "work efficient", after all.


  1. I agree. I really don't understand those people who keeps on telling me that they are so busy that even a simple text message reply like "okay" they can make it! I really find it rude. :(

    By the way, I wish I could wear beanie here in the Philippines, it's sad that we don't enjoy a cold weather here! love the looks ;)

    Ericka of http://behappyblue.blogspot.com

  2. I suppose I fall under your:

    "you are a trophy wife who call yourself an "entrepreneur" because you have a fluky "entrepreneurial business" on the side to pass your time until you get knocked up"

    because I am a) married b) trying to get pregnant and c) own my own business. although, I am doing what I love and I owned this business for two years before I got married. How is my business any less legit then your job? I spend tons of time with it. If its not your style, fine. But plenty of people will pay me $60 to make things. I don't find my worth from my job, or even from my husband. Yet I don't think there is any problem with following my dream to have a family, and working on the side until that happens. If its not your dream, fine. But don't belittle mine, or countless others.

    1. Carolynn, I don't think Julie is belittling you at all. She's just saying that there are people who work their asses off at a job, and some of those people use the idea that they're busy to exclude people from their lives and make themselves feel more superior. I think you should step back and look at the broader context of her post.

    2. Carolynn, you are anything but a trophy wife. The fact that people pay you $60 to make something and that it make profit make it legit and not fluky. From your blog I know you are hard working, caring and doesn't take things for granted. But like Amanda says there are people on the other side of the spectrum who just likes to make themselves more superior. And heck I think most women (me included) would hope to get married and have kids while making money on the side one day!

  3. what a great plane! today I posted my look with a plane too, hehe :)) beautiful outfit :)


  4. TOTALLY agree about wanting something and making the time for it. There's no need to set your priorities aside, no matter how "busy" you may be! :)

    sorelle in style

  5. This has to be one of my favorite posts from you. In this day and age, everyone works hard. You just have to be able to make time and manage yourself well. Afterall, sacrifice is the price we pay for success. How much you sacrifice depends on how much you want it or how much you can even afford to give. (Beautiful jacket btw :D)

  6. Its good to be busy with the stuff you do and
    I believe social life is also part to be busy.
    And to make all this work I think its important
    to plan/organize and find a balance. And
    sometimes we have to sacrifice as well.
    Anyway great grayscale pictures c: Xx

  7. So often "being busy" is a great way to blow people off and to make them feel as thought they are not worth your time. I love being busy - more accurately I love having a rich, full, and fulfilling schedule so that I feel as though I am DOING something. It would drive me nuts to not do anything at all.

    But I did have a friend that wouldn't bother to make any effort with anyone and expected everyone to cater to her because she was always "so busy". Yeah, busy being self-serving. It can be the same as "I don't have anytime for you little people."

    Well written post, I really enjoyed reading it.

  8. So true...but I personally found that no matter what the age, when a man says he's "too busy," he's not worth keeping. It's important to work hard and earn a living, but it's also important to set time aside for the people you love. If someone can't even take the time to respond to a text message or make a phone call, that person probably won't be a very good father/husband!

  9. "When I attend fashion events it's always the same people who stress how busy they are. To be honest it has been 2 years and I still have no clue what those people do on daily basis."

    Haha that thought has secretly crossed my mind too. As for the friend who's always whining about how busy she is, eep! I hope that's not me. :P

  10. This speaks to me on a very personal level <3

  11. Ha, way to throw in that Taylor Swift reference...made me laugh. Its true that we make time for what we want - this semester I'm crazy busy but I still find time to hang out with close friends and blog. Aha, you'll always do what you love!

    The Dragonfruit Diaries

  12. loving your jacket and beanie :D

  13. do you want to follow each other?

  14. I am always busy and try to make time. We tend to make time for the things that we want to do. Love your outfit. xx/Madison

  15. Yes, yes!!! Apparently I was cool even during childhood--I often had to pass on doing things with friends because my dad kept me really busy with chores....and then employment came into the picture. That said, there's always time for friends--maybe I couldn't go play football with them on Saturday mornings (that was prime chore time), but there was time for them. And if I care about someone, but let work keep me away from them when I'm trying to build a relationship...what's the point??? That's a sad life to be building.

  16. Love your jacket, it's beautiful! :)

    I was reading an article about "business" the other day, someone saying that people are always trying to appear busy as it makes them feel important, haha!

    Away From The Blue

  17. Being busy has been "trendy" in Finland forever. Here, it's cool to say that you've spend the whole summer vacation (4 weeks or so) working, one way or another. You need to have project after project after project, and that's just crazy! I like my free time, and I like days when I don't _have_ to do much. ♥

  18. Amazing post and I really love the photos!!!

    My Lyfe ; My Story
    @MyLyfeMyStory ♥ ♥

  19. true that! very well said and I totally agree. I constantly find time to be with my boyfriend, and to blog, despite being so busy with my full time job... but for anything else, i'm simply too busy to care. Anyway i love your outfit! you look simply chic!

    xo, Carla

  20. this is a great post and those photos are awesome!!

  21. so,

    1. I love your casual/sexy/striding-away-like-a-badass outfit.

    2. I have a particular penchant for bloggers who take time to discuss their lives and opinions on their blogs. I love it. It makes me feel like I'm getting a peek into their world, which inspires me to follow them more. I'm ridiculously glad i found your blog.

    3.I have the tendancy to waste a whole evening vegging out and watching re-runs of Modern Family and then pretend like I'm busy. I'm an introvert, so being busy with other people practically kills me, and I feel like they judge me less when I tell them I'm busy. But after looking at it from your point of view, I'm just gonna be honest with them about how I spend my time.

    4. Thanks for stopping by my blog! I loved your comment; I'm following you now and look forward to our mutual stalking. ;)



  22. Hi Julie, we met yesterday (Oct 5) in Cumberland
    Very good post.
    Whenever anyone asks me, "You busy?" I always say, with a smile, "Try not to be!"
    Busy-ness is no way to live in the long run -- you don't do anything in depth that way -- you skim
    your way through life and end up with nothing to nourish you.

  23. Good one with "if someone is too busy to be with you or just to say hello, they most likely don't think you're worth their time." I totally agree with that. If we really want something/someone, we will find a way no matter what. It IS about working smart. Not just hard. I also believe that's how the rich got richer.