November 27, 2013

Skinny Love

{Photos by Zach; wearing ASOS jacket, Sheinside shirt}

A friend sent this to me the other day. I love it and it's a great reminder. Happy hump day.

What Oprah Winfrey Says About Men

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationship. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole  individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun, even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Never move into his mother's house.

30 comments:

  1. A lot of truth in these words. I love your warm coat!
    www.minsbeautyequipment.com

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  2. I love your coat! Love how you matched it with the red shirt + hat.

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  3. These statements are true ... if not always easy to hear... :-/

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  4. Too cool and chic. Love your style here :)

    Kisses
    http://yourfashiontroubleshootingguide.blogspot.com ♥

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  5. Dirt road, fields, woods...so much like where I grew up. If there a train track nearby, that would complete the picture. :)

    Thank you for sharing that song, I'd never hear it before--I like it!

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    1. PS - Only you could look so good with a flannel shirt around the waist!

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  6. I totally agree Pop Champagne! I love this post of yours so much that I bookmarked the link of this post in my chrome. :) By the way, love the photos! :)

    Love,
    Ericka of http://behappyblue.blogspot.com

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  7. Lots of wise words here gotta say - thanks Oprah! Ha. Looking cute as always lady, I love your fluffy coat!

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  8. Great look and woah! Great advice from Oprah.
    xx, M

    The Marcy Stop

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  9. I always say, if someone loves you you will prove it, otherwise there cares about you. I liked your post and your look. I like the detail of the shirt tied and your leopard print coat

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  10. I freaking love you and want to be your friend :) x

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  11. Hi-ya. Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I do appreciate it, and figured I'd return the favor. Nice to meetcha. (LOVE that celebratory screen name!)

    Oprah's come up with some terrific advise. Thanks for sharing.

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  12. I;m actually not a big fan of Oprah, but this advice is good, and very true! I see a lot of people who get in relationships for ALL the wrong reasons and do just about everything mentioned above that you should not do.

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  13. hello darling, u have a great blog, would you like to follow each other on gfc and facebook???? I always follow back
    http://idareyoutobefashion.blogspot.ro/

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  14. Great tips and great look. Oprah isn´t known in my country, but I love her job.

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  15. The first statement is something that I always forget. I have this bad preconception that you *can* make a man like you, but honestly, that affection and attraction comes from within himself. There is only so much you can do to make him feel for you. Having said that, I LOVE YOUR PHOTOS. You honestly have some of the best fashion photos out there. x

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  16. Those are inspiring, Man's thing :)

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  17. These tips are really good for us girls out there looking for something serious! Thanks for the info! :)

    xxDenysia Yu
    http://thatlaitgirl.com

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  18. Agreed agreed and agreed - I need this printed out on my wall

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  19. Oprah is so wise...I seriously want to print this out now. Love it!

    The Dragonfruit Diaries

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  20. Brilliant blog, great posts and beautiful proprietress! What to want more ...
    I'd love to follow you (bloglovin + GFC) and welcome to visit my
    blog about fashion - KatherineUnique.blogspot.com.


    Regards,
    Katherine Unique


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  21. Love what Oprah Winfrey said! Such a gorgeous outfit, the jacket is amazing and it looks gorgeous on you.x
    xxxx
    Stephanie
    vidathings.blogspot.co.uk

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  22. Love that fur jacket ! So beautiful!!!
    xoxo

    Novelstyle

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  23. Great advice from Oprah :) Love everything about this outfit!! :)

    Great advice from Oprah

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  24. Stellar advice and gorgeous outfit. I love how relaxed and grunge yet chic you look! :D

    love,
    a

    www.missdecaf.blogspot.com

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  25. Beautiful pics. Love that coat! :)
    xoxo

    www.modacapital-blog.com

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  26. woah, super great outfit, honey :-)

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