September 1, 2014

Denim On Denim



{wearing Sperry top-sider loafers, Persona bracelet, DIY tie dye shorts, Madewell shirt}

Hope you guys had a great Labor Day weekend. I went shopping and spent way too much money (including this pair of shoes I'm wearing here) that I felt bad and returned some purchases today. And now I seem compelled to tell the internet this.

Some friends come and go. Other friends turn into lovers then turn into strangers. It's stupid to forgive and forget someone after they have hurt you especially when they haven't changed one bit and show no remorse. Fool me once shame on you and fool me twice shame on me.

I know girls who are in relationships because the guy pays for the bills. I know girls who are in relationships because they need to be assured that they are loved by a guy at all times. I know girls who are having sex with guys because they feel that they ought to. I know girls who fall into believing that if they don't have love from a guy, they have nothing else.

Because too many people have been abandoned by their supposed friends. Because too many people have been let down by those who are supposed to be their nurturers. Because if someone gives them the attention and love now and even if it is purely conditional and temporary, it is still better than having no attention and love right now.

But nobody can love yourself like you can. Nobody can give you the security and confidence you need but yourself. And nobody but you is responsible for those, either.

16 comments:

  1. I can totally see why you'd go on a spending spree during Labour Day weekend. The discounts were ridiculous! I didn't pick anything up myself but it sure was tempting, especially with all the online newsletters. Denim on denim is never easy to pull off, but this combination is really striking and coherent.
    Elina | Miss Blue Eyes

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  2. I know that until we love ourselves, no one else can truly love us... and as hard as it is being alone, I would rather be alone than be in a relationship with someone who didn't really love me... this is not an easy place to get to but it is a place we need to get to...

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  3. I'm currently seeing someone who had just left me three months ago. He says that he missed me and that he wants a second chance with the relationship. Problem is I don't really feel comfortable around him and as much as I like him and find him to be a very hilarious person, I just don't think I can go back to that mental abuse again. Sure he says he help me out and all but at the same time I can't really ask him for favours such as pics for the blog or even cash for anything like paying back the school unlike most boyfriends who would most certainly help out with the bills granted that the girlfriend pays them back on their next paycheck.

    Anyways. I really like this outfit that you are wearing. And I am also a bit of a shopaholic too and I did sine window shopping instead since I'm still broke. Hopefully you had an awesome weekend.

    Tiffany
    Tragic Couturist

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  4. Good observation. Many come to me for readings on their love life. What they don't realise is the "love" they're asking has nothing to do with THE LOVE they're wanting.

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  5. Love denim on denim...really cool outfit. I feel quite sorry for people who think they completely need to be in a relationship to feel secure or loved...if you need that to feel like that...then you know nothing about love. I ain´t saying I know everything there is to know about it but what I do know is that the most important love comes from within and as long as you can´t love yourself, all by yourself, there is no amount of men or women that will ever make you feel the love you are looking for.

    hugs
    Andy
    theblacklabelblog.blogspot.com

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  6. Your short bit there is completely accurate of the world we live in. Things are fluid, things can change and so do people. Without our input and effort from both sides we can't expect a happy state or relationship to always stay that way. I love your shorts btw, I'm assuming they are the pair you featured some time back when you did it at home in a bucket with bleach?

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  7. Great text once again! You're absolutely one of the smartest people I know ♥

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  8. Sometimes I get hit by the confession compulsion too. Hopefully it's good for something. I think my wife likes that I make her feel safe. Not sure if that's a good thing or not. She did manage to gain some confidence over the years, but is still insecure in some ways. More independence would probably have been good for her.

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  9. So true! It's sad to see young people (especially young women) who think that their worth is dependent on how other view them. At the end of the day, you are the only person who has to live with yourself, so how others view isn't nearly as important as how you view you.

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  10. When I first looked at your pictures I said oh I love that outfit, but then when I read the post I loved the picture and look even more. The pictures support what you wrote so well. I really enjoyed the artistry of it. As for the story I hear you and think we all have a similar one. All we can do is love ourselves the best we can and I believe if we do that the right people fall into place. xoxo Erin stay beautiful www.beautyjunkkie.com

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  11. I'd go even further and say we're perpetually unsatisfied because the kind of love we long for, only God can give us. Only He can love us perfectly. Until we accept His love and let our hearts be filled with it, we'll always be broken and empty.

    You can bet your pretty little face however that I'll always try and love you as best as I can ;) xoxo

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  12. Gorgeous photos, you look great! I didn't do any spending over the holiday weekend... I wish I had though :D

    I agree that before you looking for someone else to love you you need to love yourself first!

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

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  13. Amazing style ! Your shorts are perfect.
    You are very pretty :)

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  14. wow, dear!!!!! sooooo chic look!!!!! amazin pics))))) xoxo)))) <3

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  15. I do love a denim on denim look, pretty much always.

    As for the rest of what you've said - I have to agree.

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  16. denim on denim is one of my fav combos ever! (and on a side note your sunglasses are adorable!)

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