March 31, 2015

Slowly Thawing

{Photos by Bigjonmedia}

Oh my gosh. The lack of updates. Life has been busy but mostly the freezing weather in Ottawa has been making me feel pretty uncreative.

It's true that you find out who your real friends are when you're at your low... Or when they're at their low and you're not. Misery loves company. And when someone is miserable and you're not, they try to bring you down.

Attitudes. I don't like attitudes. If you have a problem, talk about it civilly and privately first instead of being a stuck up shrew talking trash from behind.

Moral compass. One cannot say what they stand for unless they have been put in a situation where they get their moral compass tested. Talk is cheap. If you have never been in those situations, then you can't say what you stand for and judge others going through it. I can say I'm anti-guns and killing people all I want until I'm caught in a war zone. Then perhaps I'll have a new set of insights, or perhaps I won't, but I really won't know where I morally stand until then. So get off your high horse, and quit judging others' personal decisions that might not even have anything to do with you.

"This is who I am." or "I'm not going to change and everyone knows I'm this way" are not acceptable answers.

While having self awareness and standing up for what you believe in is great, people who often say those things in a confrontational manner are really just pure caustic and judgmental. They say that is who they are and refuse to change as a defense mechanism to excuse their bad behavior and their verbal diarrhea. They think that by saying "you should take me as I am" excuses their shitty attitudes and how they treat others. But the truth is- No. You're a giant asshole. Stop justifying your asshole-ness.

Then you get their jokes. Whenever they say something inappropriate, they'll follow it up with, "It was a joke!". Well, guess what, your joke wasn't funny. Every joke has some truth in it and it was a slap in the face. It was targeting at something personal and you intentionally did so. It was a plain douche bag move.

Lastly, the ones that say "I hate drama" are always the ones causing all of it. ALL of it. They are toxic assholes.

I'm so done with this.